There are four groups of people you need to forgive if you are serious about changing your thinking and changing your life.
The first is your parents, living or dead. You must absolutely forgive them for every mistake they ever made in bringing you up. At the very least, you should be grateful for them for giving you life. They got you here. If you are happy to be alive, you can forgive them for everything else. Never complain about them again.
In contrast, by not forgiving your parents, you remain forever a child. You block your own chance to grow up and become a fully functioning adult. You continue to see yourself as a victim. Even worse, you keep your negative feelings of inferiority and anger alive.
If your parents die without your having forgiven them, it can bother you for the rest of your life...
The second group you must forgive is the people from your close relationships that didn't work out. Marriage and other intimate relationships can be so intense, and so threatening to your feelings of self-esteem and self-worth, that you can be angry and unforgiving towards those people for years.
But you were atleast partially responsible. Have the personal strength and integrity to say, "I am responsible," and then forgive the other person and let him or her go. Say the words, "I forgive him/her for everything and I wish him/her well." Each time you repeat this, the negative emotion attached to the memory will diminish. Soon it will be gone forever...
More to follow...
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